I had the privilege of meeting two lovely people yesterday. Interestingly, they were both overly sensitive to the light touch. Sometimes I like these challenges because it allows the opportunity to see how far I can push them and get to know them better throughout our time shared together.
From my experience, there are several factors that make a person sensitive to light touch.
Nervousness
Since it was both of their first times in my condo, and the first time meeting me, they were nervous. They weren’t sure how the session would go. It takes a lot of courage to move out your comfort zone and come into a stranger’s space. I always give a lot of kudos to the newbies who find that courage, especially when it is their first time ever in a situation like this.
When a person is nervous, I’ve noticed that they are hyper aware. Their body is tense, and every sensation can be amplified. I’m aware of this and my focus is to help the person relax. My first goal is essentially to caress and hug a person, calming their nerves and allowing them to know that they are safe in my arms. I will test their boundaries with a little bit of light touch here and there. Typically they will apologize for squirming, but this is certainly not something to be sorry for. We are all different and we all have our own threshold of what we can handle. I noticed that typically once a person becomes more calm and relaxed, the light touch can become more pleasurable (less ticklish) and they can take a little bit more sensation than what they did when they first walked in.
Person 1 fit this description best. He was very nervous at the beginning, and also explicitly stated that he was very ticklish. But after some time cuddling and caressing, and then laying him on my massage table to start massaging him, he loved the light touch. He even moaned in pleasure during the session, even louder at climax.
High Strung (Type A) Personality
Most men that I see have Type A personalities. A lot of these men have leadership qualities, operating businesses, the head of their family and taking charge of everything within their life. Many people have shared that they enjoy spending time with me because they can give up that control. They can allow themselves to relax, not have to make decisions and also allow someone else to take charge. Usually the motivation for coming to visit me is to destress, and share in a unique experience of role reversal by giving up this level of control for their pleasure.
Typically, those have a Type A personality (specially possessing traits of impatience and having difficulty relaxing) are never a good fit for me. Those who do not allow things to unfold naturally will not have a good time because, from my experience, they will always be worried about “what is going to happen next”. In addition, from my experience, these types of people also are more demanding and do not have capacity to treat me with the level of respect that I give to others. The whole premise of what I offer is to have a level of appreciation for sensual touch, a slow buildup leading to an intense orgasm. I experience these individuals want to orgasm quickly and want to run out the door, or they are demanding for more than what I’ve explicitly stated that I don’t offer. This does not fit with me and I’ve had situations where I haven’t welcomed those individuals back.
For example, there was one individual who booked 90 minutes almost two years ago and during the whole session he kept saying “now what” and “what’s next” as I was massaging him. He wasn’t allowing himself the opportunity to relax. It was a little frustrating because it also plays on my energy where I don’t feel relaxed and I’m not enjoying myself either. He contacted me the next week to try and rebook, but I didn’t get back to him within his timeframe. When I finally replied to him (because I figured I would give him a second chance with him knowing the expectations now), he stated that I took too long to respond and that he had already booked with someone else. To me, I interpreted this as a “punishment” for not responding on his timeline and I believe that people will treat me how I allow them to. I interpreted this as that we are not a good fit and I wished him all the best. He has been messaging me trying to book another session every week since that day.
However, there are some Type A personalities that do enjoy the sensual touch but my theory is they don’t (or cannot) allow themselves to relax. This is just not in their nature and so they come across as high strung. I’ve noticed that these individuals enjoy more of the squeezing, firm body-to-body cuddling, mutual massages and firm caressing over the light touch, tickling and teasing. This is just part of their personality, and that’s okay because they still want to enjoy the session but at their pace (not rushing). These types of individuals just want a firm and closer touch. As long as they are gentle in places that I request, I also enjoy these experiences. Sometimes they don’t mind that I am gentle and use light touch in other places as well.
Person # 2 fit this description best, where I experienced him to have Type A personality traits, but certainly not demanding or impatient. He just wanted to be cuddled and caressed, and to share some mutual massaging with me. There was a moment where he disclosed some personal details of his life, asking for relationship advice. Not only was the physical touch important to him, but also desiring a sense of connection, looking for guidance on ways to navigate the difficulties he’s experiencing with a particular woman in his life.
Desensitization
Robin is a perfect example of an individual who needed some time to build up to the feeling of the sensual light touch. Although he was nervous when he first met me, and was extra sensitive to the light touch, the sensitivity still lingered overtime. As we got to know each other more, he eventually became desensitized to the tickling aspect and started experiencing it as pleasurable, instead of an uncomfortable sensation.
What If I Don’t Like Tickling?
First off, no means no. So if this is something you absolutely detest, I have no qualms about respecting your boundaries. However, I have a gift of being able to read people. Although I’m not right 100% of the time, I think my intuition serves me well. Many people ask me where I learned my sensual touch and I always respond the same way, “it comes naturally and intuitively”. I’m not just referring to someone’s personality, but also their body language and response to my touch. When we first meet, I will allow you to experience all levels of touch that I have to offer. I love to see that way that your body responds and how you communicate with every touch and sensation. I might incorporate a little bit less tickling here and there if it seems as though it may be too much for you, but not in way which is overwhelming or torturous. I still think it’s important to push your boundaries slowly as long as you are open to it.
My focus is to allow you to experience various levels of sensation and pleasure, which will intensify the orgasm. It’s the opportunity for you to move outside of your comfort zone and try something new, perhaps be touched in a way that you’ve never been touched before. It’s inspiring a deeper level of relaxation and perhaps changing your perception of something that you may have experienced before but with the intention of rewiring it in your mind to associate this touch with something positive and pleasurable. If this is something that absolutely does not work for you, you will not be forced to be subjected to this touch.
Most people welcome this, whether right away or slowly overtime, because it heightens sensations. I’ve noticed that this light touch increases all levels of pleasure, forgetting all the stressors in life, inspiring 1+ hours of mindfulness and leading to ultimate bliss.
