I had the pleasure of sharing time with Mr. F last week for our 5th session together. He wanted to try sounding for his very first time.
I experience Mr. F to be an intelligent individual who researches everything before finding the courage to explore and pushes his own boundaries. Awareness of his own mortality tied into the illness that he struggles with also inspires his courageousness.
Mr. F shared that he has read my earlier blogs about sounding, which can be found here and here. He also shared that read into it from a variety of websites to gain a little bit more confidence and insight into the experience, expectations and risks around sounding.
I wanted to share some information around sounding, intertwining my experience and interpretation of Mr. F’s feedback and thoughts during our shared time together.
Care Must Be Used With Sounding
I made time a few days prior to our meeting to have a quick chat with Mr. F on the phone. He requested to have some reassurance through the opportunity to chat with me in order to have his questions answered and his anxieties eased. Since we have already established a trusting professional relationship, he felt like I was the perfect person to share this First Time experience with.
Like with anything, there is always risk involved. If not done with care, sounding can put you at risk for injury and medical complications m, which you can read more about here. I think it’s important to be aware of all the factors before trying something new, and practicing care when exploring with a structure as delicate as the urethra.
What type of sounding material: silicone or stainless steel?
This was another questions Mr. F brought up during our phone call. He said he purchased both options, but I told him my preference was stainless steel. I shared my experience with him with another individual who I tried the silicone with and it went all the way in (despite being 2x longer than the steel rods) and I found that the silicone ‘rods’ did not allow for as much control as the stainless deal. In addition, I also found it to not be as effective in terms of stimulating the urethra and prostate.
Which Size of Sounding Rod?
The sounding kits that you can purchase online, usually have a variety of sizes in diameter, from very small to extremely large (about an inch in diameter). I’m always one to err on the side of caution and use the smallest rod to reduce any chance of damage infliction. Mr. F and I agreed to use the smallest rod as part of his first experience.
Sanitization is Paramount
Sounding can put a person at risk for bacterial infections, such as UTIs, if not done with proper sanitization.
I put the sounding rods into boiling water for many minutes, and flipping them over to the other side to ensure they were fully sanitized. Mr. F purchased medical grade lube to ensure production of lubricant was maintained at the highest medical standard. I also religiously washed my hands, including around and under my nails and drying my hands with a fresh towel.
Before placing the sounding rods inside, Mr. F, I also grabbed the my 99% isopropyl alcohol to spray on my hands as I wanted to ensure extra sanitization.
Sounding Insertion Techniques are Important
Sounding rods should never be forced in, as this can cause damage and harm to the structures. You can read more about it here.
When I practice sounding, I always let gravity take over - never forcing the rod inside and ensuring the recipient is relaxed. I placed the rod on Mr. F’s urethral opening, with a healthy amount of medical grade lube, and allowed the rod to enter slowly, holding it gently with my fingers to still have control over the speed in which it entered inside of Mr. F.
I’ve done sounding with others before and they have pushed the rod in, to expedite the stimulation to their prostate. However, prostate stimulation has been the purpose for most but sometimes isn’t the only level of pleasure experienced.
Sounding Isn’t Just About the Prostate
For many of those seasoned (and not so experienced) ‘sound-ers’, it’s also about the feeling of the urethra stretching which provides a delicate balance in the pain/pleasure threshold.
When I first placed the rod inside, Mr. F’s urethra, he moaned with pleasure at the feeling of his urethra being expanded. Ive had some other people request that I stick my finger gently down their urethral opening without sounding, which has been reported to be very pleasurable for some.
Will The Sounding Rod Get Lost?
This is a risk for sounding according to some literature, but not something that I thankfully haven’t ever experienced, especially with the stainless steel rods. Typically, the penis starts off quite soft, which is always recommended as it’s easier for the sounding rod to move down the urethra. As the penis gets harder, and depending on the person, more of the sounding rod will disappear.
Mr. F was worried about the sounding rod getting lost, but with our experience together, we were lucky if half of it was inside even at his hardest point.
As soon as the sounding rod stopped moving down his urethra, I started to stroke him gently. Additionally, I also had a butt plug inside of him which I find also reduced the space inside the urethra, making less room for the rod to enter and more opportunities for intense pleasure.
Although he never climaxed due to overstimulation and unable to get out of his own head due to his medical conditions which is entirely out of his control, he assured me this was one of the best pleasurable experiences he’s had - which is all that matters in the end.
In summary, sounding is not for everyone but it is certainly something to be done with thougtfulness every time. I think it’s important to be aware of the delicacy of the urethral structures and not sound for the purpose of pain infliction. It should be done slowly with care and, when applicable, with a partner who is attentive, communicative and gentle.
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