Jump Into That Lake

The saying, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” does hold some weight but doesn’t have to be the truth if we make a conscious and willing effort to fall out of the comfort of predictability.

I was in cottage county last week. I was reluctant to jump into the lake. I put it off for a day. By the evening of day 2, I decided to just do it. It was cold, it was uncomfortable. But only for a moment. The feeling of the cold water on my skin lasted the rest of the evening. It was refreshing, calming and so rewarding.

I’m so grateful to hold many people’s secrets that they may feel too embarrassed to share with anyone else. I foster an environment built on non-judgment. Every ounce of my being focuses on release and exploration.

Just like jumping into the lake, those who have shared their most inner secrets and desires have felt some benefits from even just saying things out loud. Sometimes sitting with our thoughts alone can be challenging, especially when we are suppressing a part of our self that craves the release. And sometimes it’s just sharing with someone you trust that can be just as powerful as living out these fantasies.

Some of us suppress our thoughts and feelings out of fear of being judged. Perhaps a previous partner shamed you when you did share or others unknowingly shamed a particular kink in your presence. I can see how this can make it difficult to share your vulnerable side.

When we’re young (and before the world has tainted us), we are trusting. Just like jumping into the lake, it’s easier. We don’t think about how we “could” feel, we just do it because it’s something we want to do in the moment. And when we do it, we reap the benefits without knowing or appreciating the impact as much because the fear of the repercussions have not had the opportunity to jade us.

If you’re afraid to do something new, ask yourself, “what am I afraid of?” And “what do I need to calm my fears?”. When we objectively ask ourselves the questions, we are more likely to face these fears and come to the realization that like fear isn’t logical.

Additionally, now that we are wiser than we were when we were younger, we can exercise discretion when jumping into that lake, instead of avoiding the lake altogether. Is this a safe place to jump into that lake? If not here, then where would be suitable? And with who?

If you decide to jump into that lake with me, I’ll be there to catch you.

I’m lucky to have many people invite me alongside their journey. Many people take the plunge by sharing their innermost fantasies and, even if I can’t fulfill them due to my boundaries, time restrictions or other factors, it is still cathartic for the person sharing nevertheless. We can also plan for the future to expand on these fantasies or even brainstorm ways to further explore next time if the first session inspires new ideas.

Here are only some common (non vanilla) fantasies that others share with me (not mutually exclusive):

(Sweaty) sock and/or feet fetish

Pegging and prostate play

Wearing lingerie

Binding sessions

Cross dressing/sissification

Bi curious sessions

Role playing (temptation from a professional and/or cheating fantasy)

Humiliation and/or light/sensual domination

Voyeurism and exhibition fantasy

So jump in the lake. Take the plunge. Even if you decide to just share your inner thoughts with me, you don’t have to be ready for the hands-on experience right now. Let’s explore together, at your pace. Whether you’re dipping your toe in, slowly walking in and getting used to the temperature or jumping off the dock, I can assure you that this progress will make you feel more alive, improving the quality of your life, than suppression ever will.