The joys of my own anal exploration had never really crossed my mind, or if it did, it was put into the "you're gay, that's only for gay men," and I'm not gay. But exploring a woman's ass, her perineum with my tongue, mouth and finger tips to give her pleasure was always something I loved to try. Over the years, I found the response mixed. Some girlfriends felt it was far too dirty down there, and even though I was hard with anticipation, they gave a hard no. I wasn't looking for anal intercourse at all, just another way to provide a sensually fulfilling experience. Many of those personal desires came from my own experience of having oral sex with a woman three years before I ever had intercourse. As much as I'm not a fan of the Catholic faith, I applaud (in this case at least) their mandate that intercourse before marriage was off the table, but apparently oral was not (thankfully she used that rationale). I delighted in learning as much about the female anatomy and pleasure zones as possible from a very willing and equally curious partner. And although she didn't play much in my anal area, she delighted in my playing with hers, and most everywhere else as well. Many years later, Autumn and I connect in the best way possible; intellectually, emotionally and physically. She empowers me to allow myself to be pleasured in areas that many males and females may see as a "no go" zone. We are still experimenting. Penetration by a device, plug, vibrator is interesting but it isn't always overly pleasurable for me. Pleasure and sensual intensity come from her presence. When her fingers and her sensual energy gently slip inside me she senses my physical response, as well as my breathing, moans, and words. I watch her, with her eyes closed, I feel her connecting mentally and emotionally to me. I might feel vulnerable at first, but I have learned to fully enjoy those moments, to normalize the pleasure of anal penetration in Autumn's safe and sensual fingers and heart.
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